Being a Strong Black Woman is killing you.
But no one's talking about it.
It's time to change that.
We show up for everyone.
We suffer in silence.
We give 'til it hurts.
And then, one day, we break.
You’ve spent years being everything for everybody...
You're the fixer. The strong friend. The one who holds it down no matter the cost.
You smile through the exhaustion.
You show up on empty.
You sacrifice your peace just to keep everyone else comfortable.
But deep down, you know it’s not sustainable.
I know how you feel, because I've been there.
I wore the cape. I did the most. Until it actually broke me.
It was then that I realized that strength isn’t strength if it costs you yourself.
So I made a choice—
To stop performing.
To start healing.
To trade being strong for being whole.
This book shares how I reclaimed my voice, my power, and my life.
And if you’re ready, it'll be the blueprint for reclaiming yours, too.
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We’ve been taught to wear strength like a badge of honor —
like our value is attached to the amount of pain we can carry.
But what if, instead of helping us live better lives, our strength has been slowly breaking us?
For generations, Black women have been expected to be strong — to reach the highest heights, manage home and career, and meet everyone’s needs — while quietly carrying the weight of trauma, unmet needs, and perfectionism.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
In this raw and revelatory book, Dr. Rhonda Thompson Alexander pulls back the curtain on what it really means to be “the strong one” — and what it takes to finally be free. Through deeply personal stories, practical insights, and faith-filled reflections, she creates a path to healing that is as spiritual as it is strategic.
Blending her experience as a minister, strategist, and executive coach, Dr. Rhonda invites you to do more than survive your life. She invites you to reclaim it.
in 7 Dirty Secrets of A Strong Black Woman, you'll discover how to:
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Recognize the silent sacrifices you’ve normalized in the name of strength
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Break the toxic patterns that keep you over-functioning, but feeling under-supported
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Redefine success on your terms—without guilt, burnout, or shame
This book is for the woman who’s done proving herself, living up to everyone else's standards, and pretending to be ok when she's not.
Get ready to reclaim your voice, your peace, and your power.
Meet the author
Dr. Rhonda Alexander
Dr. Rhonda Thompson Alexander is a minister, strategist, and founder of SoulScribe Consulting & Publishing Co., where she helps high-achieving women transform their expertise into movements, books, and six-figure platforms rooted in their authenticity.
With a doctorate in Strategic Leadership and a background in executive coaching, Dr. Rhonda is a trusted advisor to powerhouse women ready to pivot from success to legacy. Her work blends spiritual wisdom with business acumen, guiding women to build what’s next without betraying who they are.
Dr. Rhonda is a sought-after speaker and host of The Haven—a sacred space for Black women doing the inner work to reclaim their voices, ditch toxic strength, and honor who they are beyond the roles they play.
Off stage, she’s a devoted mama and chocolate lover, and her happiest place is anywhere near the ocean.
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